Tuesday, October 7

Mangalsutra (a) Taali in Marriage

  The big Fat Indian wedding is often an important part of every family.Marriages are filled with rituals and celebrations that continue for several days.The traditional Indian wedding is about two families being brought together Socially. Lakhs are spent on the wedding again to show the social status. For those who are wealthy there is no issue, but the problem arises for the middle class families.

  The average cost of an Indian wedding from the brides side is somewhere between 10 to 20 lakhs. Its fun to attend others wedding, but when it comes to our own family we realise  what a burden it is. There is again a social pressure here. Even in this century where the girl is as equally educated as the guy is, the marriage expenditure has to be taken up by the brides family. How is this right? Why cant the bridegroom share half the cost?

 I cant believe people are still ready to give dowry for girls who are well educated and earning more than the bridegroom. Why? because the girl is over the age  prescribed as the "marriage age". Cant a girl be independent? wont a girl have her own dreams and ambitions? Is getting married her only GOAL in life? Again the Social pressure plays its trick here.

Wearing Mangalsutra or Tali is a must for married Indian women. Societies taboo female not wearing Mangalsutra or Taali. But why? Isn't it her own wish to wear it ?

 In the olden days  married women wore Taali or Mangalsutra and men wore toe rings as the girls were never allowed to walk with her head held up high, thus it was believed when she sees a man wearing a toe ring she will know that he is married and would not try and court him or make any advancements. 

  I have never seen a man wear toe rings after marriage or there is not custom during the marriage ceremony where the bridegroom is made to wear the toe ring. So This is never spoken about or never becomes a taboo. But When it comes to a women why is that the whole society makes it an issue ??

 I understand the scientific importance of metti and tali. 

"Wearing toe ring to the second toe has sexual/erotic effect.The reflexology texts also mention about treating gynecological problems by massaging the second toe.There is also a belief that the wearing of toe rings press on certain nerves that pertain to the reproductive system, keeping it in balance and healthy.Ancient Ayurvedic medicine has long been used along side acupressure.Indians believe that your "prana" or "life force" must be in balance in order for you to stay healthy. All of the paths of your "prana" run down to your toes, so the idea that a marital symbol could double up as a reproductive enhancer is not a big stretch.By wearing this in both feet, it is believed, that their menstrual cycle course is regularized with even intervals. This gives good scope for conceiving to married women.Also it is said just because that particular nerve in the second finger from toe, also connects the uterus and passes through heart. Because of this, the constant friction caused while walking and doing all sorts of chores during a day, it revitalizes the productivity organs.As Silver being a good conductor, it also absorbs the energy from the polar energies from the earth and passes it to the body, thus refreshing whole body system." ---hindutraditionandculture

But the problem here is Why is it forced only on women? and someone who really wants to know the reason for all there "Social" pressure is termed gabby and no one dares to give the correct answer?

Mangalsutra or Tali is a sacred thread of love and goodwill . Agreed that loads of pujas are done and it brings in a positive vibe, but why is it frowned on and vetoed?? I really fail to understand.

Beacuse there is no explanation given to all these age old customs, We are loosing many traditions and they are being labelled as "Myths". I am a strong believer of science and non-duality and have always believed that tradition and science go hand in hand. In this generation where everyone demands a satisfying answer, if we are not ready to give them the reason behind these customs, i fear we may loose them for ever.

But on everything There is just a social pressure and a fake social painting that has been blown up and framed.

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  1. The facade, the not very sensible rituals, pressure from the society are few things that most are swirled by. Well, valid points up there It doesn't make sense to fritter away money (loads) from one side for the so called status. Didn't know about toe rings though.

  2. @embarkwithmythoughts Thanks for the read.!! the society is still male dominant in most cases !!

  3. Very attractive post and i really appreciate your thought.....


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